It looks like they have referred through April 3rd! WOO-HOO! Another whopping three days of referrals.....be still my beating heart! A post on the Rumor Queen has them being done with April in June or July. JUNE OR JULY, C'mon now! That just really sucks! What to do, what to do? Really, I am just thinking out loud. I know in my heart that God knows me and my inner most thoughts~
"BE PATIENT...WAIT ON ME. YEARS ARE LIKE SECONDS TO ME." I hear His voice inside my head but yet my flesh cries out "how can you ask me to wait, I am not getting any younger here!" And then, a peace overcomes me and I know that He is with me. Age is just a number and our days are already planned. So as I sit back, relax and read His word.....knowing and believing that whatever he has in store for me is perfect because it is His plan.
Pray with me if you will:
Dear Heavenly Father,
I worship and praise you, Lord. For you are perfect in every way. Please bless Tony and I and bless those who are praying with us for this adoption. We pray for the orphans that you will comfort them until their forever families are found. Bless those who are working so hard to find homes for the orphans and Lord, thank you for sending you son, Jesus, to die for our sins. Forgive us when fail you and Lord help us to recognize those times. I Pray all these in through Jesus' precious name, AMEN!
Blessings to you and your families!
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Referrals
I know, I know....it seems like it has been a long time since I "blogged" but it just seems like time is standing still in the adoption world. With that being said here is the latest, hottest (is that even a word?) news:
December 02, 2009
We received referrals today for families with LIDs of March 29, 2006. According to the CCAA website, referrals went through March 31, 2006, making the current wait time approximately 44 months.
44 MONTHS!!!!!!! CAN YOU FRIGGIN' BELIEVE IT!!!!! I think elephants aren't even pregnant this long! With all this waiting, it has us thinking, are we really doing the right thing? Is there more that we could be doing?
Something came to my mind over Thanksgiving...something that has always been there but never really discussed, always too afraid I guess. Well, anyhow, I was surfing the web and ended up looking at foster kids on the internet (so many!). For one reason or another I felt a tugging in my heart for those with siblings in foster care. How awesome would it be to be able to keep a family together! Long story short, I went to church on Sunday and in our mailbox our Pastor had put a letter that he had received from the Childrens Service in our county looking for foster families. GOD WINK :)
GOD WINKS: Meaning the things that seem to be coincidental are really God's way of speaking to us.
So I am going to be giving this lady a call to see if we can set up a meeting with her to get a little more information and also to see if she will speak at our church.
We are still pursuing our adoption from China because I KNOW that God has that perfect little girl for us but in the meantime, who knows!!!!! Pray for us, for direction and for more GOD WINKS!
December 02, 2009
We received referrals today for families with LIDs of March 29, 2006. According to the CCAA website, referrals went through March 31, 2006, making the current wait time approximately 44 months.
44 MONTHS!!!!!!! CAN YOU FRIGGIN' BELIEVE IT!!!!! I think elephants aren't even pregnant this long! With all this waiting, it has us thinking, are we really doing the right thing? Is there more that we could be doing?
Something came to my mind over Thanksgiving...something that has always been there but never really discussed, always too afraid I guess. Well, anyhow, I was surfing the web and ended up looking at foster kids on the internet (so many!). For one reason or another I felt a tugging in my heart for those with siblings in foster care. How awesome would it be to be able to keep a family together! Long story short, I went to church on Sunday and in our mailbox our Pastor had put a letter that he had received from the Childrens Service in our county looking for foster families. GOD WINK :)
GOD WINKS: Meaning the things that seem to be coincidental are really God's way of speaking to us.
So I am going to be giving this lady a call to see if we can set up a meeting with her to get a little more information and also to see if she will speak at our church.
We are still pursuing our adoption from China because I KNOW that God has that perfect little girl for us but in the meantime, who knows!!!!! Pray for us, for direction and for more GOD WINKS!
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
November is here!
Can you believe that is is November already? Where has this year gone? As I look back over the referrals for this year it makes me want to cry! The end of January brought the referrals to March 2, 2006. And for October, they just referred through the LID of March 28, 2006! It has taken all year to get through one month! I know March was a HUGE month but c'mon! It seems like my patience is starting to wear thin....
We have talked about possibly trying to adopt a SN baby (special needs).....in fact we even found a little girl on the SN list that was 3 years old, cute as a button and the medical problems were really not that bad....but of course, when we checked to see if she was still available someone had already locked her in. So that is fustrating as well! I know that God has our child picked out for us....and I know in my heart that I just need to trust Him. Please keep us in your prayers...pray for peace, patience, wisdom and for the ability to hear God's voice when he speaks to us. Pray for all those children that are waiting for their forever families and please pray for their caregivers as well.
We have talked about possibly trying to adopt a SN baby (special needs).....in fact we even found a little girl on the SN list that was 3 years old, cute as a button and the medical problems were really not that bad....but of course, when we checked to see if she was still available someone had already locked her in. So that is fustrating as well! I know that God has our child picked out for us....and I know in my heart that I just need to trust Him. Please keep us in your prayers...pray for peace, patience, wisdom and for the ability to hear God's voice when he speaks to us. Pray for all those children that are waiting for their forever families and please pray for their caregivers as well.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
It has been awhile
I haven't forgot you all~it has just been a busy summer and not alot happening on the adoption front. To catch you up where we are in the adoption process, we just refiled for our immigration paperwork again. This is the third time of filing! The paperwork is only good for 18 months and if we let it lapse it would mean that we would be spending alot more money and doing alot more work! So in order to keep our paperwork current this is what we have to do! Right now the CCAA has referred babies through the LID date of March 24, 2006 (remember our LID date is December 31, 2006) so we have about 9 months of referrals to go through before they hit us. Just keep praying for us....for patience and for finances for the unexpected charges that we are finding as time goes by.
"My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience." James 1:2,3
"My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience." James 1:2,3
Thursday, July 16, 2009
How the Matching Process Works
In case anyone is interested, this is how the matching process works as explained by the Rumor Queen:
First, they review the baby dossiers and make sure there are no issues with them. We are told that they then count up all of the baby dossiers that are eligible for matching that month and then look to see how far this stack will go in the parent dossiers without sending out a partial day, and they pull all of those parent files. That is the likely cut-off date. Sometimes something happens and they don’t get this far. Sometimes something happens and they get farther.
Next they match orphanages up with agencies. This orphanage has six babies, this agency has six families. These two orphanages are in the same province and have a total of 12 babies, this agency has 12 families. When they are through with this is when (I believe) some agencies start to get information about the cut-off date. Or at least it is when they used to start getting information.
And then they start matching individual babies to individual families. At some point during this part of the process most agencies used to hear from their person in the matching room to let them know how many referrals they will be receiving and from what province(s). Some agencies shared this information with their clients. Some chose not to. Recently I’ve gotten the feeling that many agencies are still getting this information but they are being given orders by the CCAA to not share this information with the families.
Just as in the review room, each matcher is assigned certain agencies and is responsible for communicating with their agencies. Some matchers tell their agency the cut-off date, some matchers tell their agency “you have X number of referrals arriving”, some matchers give their agency a list of that agency’s families that will be receiving a referral. And some matchers don’t say anything at all to their agencies.
The next question that comes up is generally how the matchers match families and babies. I’ve heard from several people who have had the opportunity to speak with someone who works in the matching room. The various conversations seem to all agree that they first look for something that stands out: a matching birthday, a baby who looks a lot like a parent, or a baby who likes music and a parent who teaches music. Several matching people have stated they match by bone structure of the baby’s face and the parent’s faces (this is why they need our passport photos, so they can compare our mug shot with the baby’s mug shot). Some have stated that they used Chinese astrology, also. Once they’ve matched the obvious matches they then start to look at things like age of child requested. The age requested is not a priority for them, they feel they are matching families and not filling orders.
Someday, our little girl will be matched with us and I can't help but wonder what will be the matching factors......only God knows=)
First, they review the baby dossiers and make sure there are no issues with them. We are told that they then count up all of the baby dossiers that are eligible for matching that month and then look to see how far this stack will go in the parent dossiers without sending out a partial day, and they pull all of those parent files. That is the likely cut-off date. Sometimes something happens and they don’t get this far. Sometimes something happens and they get farther.
Next they match orphanages up with agencies. This orphanage has six babies, this agency has six families. These two orphanages are in the same province and have a total of 12 babies, this agency has 12 families. When they are through with this is when (I believe) some agencies start to get information about the cut-off date. Or at least it is when they used to start getting information.
And then they start matching individual babies to individual families. At some point during this part of the process most agencies used to hear from their person in the matching room to let them know how many referrals they will be receiving and from what province(s). Some agencies shared this information with their clients. Some chose not to. Recently I’ve gotten the feeling that many agencies are still getting this information but they are being given orders by the CCAA to not share this information with the families.
Just as in the review room, each matcher is assigned certain agencies and is responsible for communicating with their agencies. Some matchers tell their agency the cut-off date, some matchers tell their agency “you have X number of referrals arriving”, some matchers give their agency a list of that agency’s families that will be receiving a referral. And some matchers don’t say anything at all to their agencies.
The next question that comes up is generally how the matchers match families and babies. I’ve heard from several people who have had the opportunity to speak with someone who works in the matching room. The various conversations seem to all agree that they first look for something that stands out: a matching birthday, a baby who looks a lot like a parent, or a baby who likes music and a parent who teaches music. Several matching people have stated they match by bone structure of the baby’s face and the parent’s faces (this is why they need our passport photos, so they can compare our mug shot with the baby’s mug shot). Some have stated that they used Chinese astrology, also. Once they’ve matched the obvious matches they then start to look at things like age of child requested. The age requested is not a priority for them, they feel they are matching families and not filling orders.
Someday, our little girl will be matched with us and I can't help but wonder what will be the matching factors......only God knows=)
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Happy Birthday Mom
Today is my Mom's birthday....it would have been her 76th but I prefer to look at it like it is her 2nd birthday in heaven. She was the best Mom you could ever ask for. She was a warm, caring women...soft spoken unless you made her mad and then she didn't speak at all. (I do that too when I get mad and then it makes me think of my mom and how much I am like her) She was a strong christian woman who loved Jesus...her actions and her words told us that. She was a brave women when it came to the end...she was ready when she was called home. On this day especially, I miss her so much. I miss our phone conversations, I miss her rolling her eyes at something Dad said, I miss the way she would walk us to our car when we went to see her and how she would keep talking as if she didn't want us to go. I could say that I miss her brownies but my Dad has taken on the roll as the brownie baker. I will never forget the batch of brownies she made for us (or should I say made for Tony...she never really made them unless she knew Tony was coming to visit) and the shelf in her oven was cockeyed. Her brownies came out fat on one end and skinny on the other! They were still good! Oh, I do have great memories of my Mom! Happy Birthday Mom...I love you soooo much!
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Nothing Official Yet
It looks like the referrals are finally here! The cut off date seems to be March 20th. Not too bad, not too good. At this rate though we may get our daughter in 4-5 years. Sometimes it just seems like it will never happen! This is an emotional roller coaster that we ride. It is hard to optimistic and it is frustrating! Please just keep us in your prayers!
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